The Secret Behind “The Secret” – How the Law of Attraction Works
Did you watch the movie “The Secret” or read the book and still, the Law of Attraction is not working for you (the way you like)?
What is the secret behind The Secret? The Law of Attraction does work all the time and the book The Secret is showing a great step by step guide to the LoA. The secret of it is giving the single steps the right emphasis.
So let's get over all the steps of manifesting with the Law of Attraction, the way The Secret is teaching us and I show you how you can make this work for you.
The Secret About the Law of Attraction
if you are like me, you probably have read all the books about the law of attraction, listened to all the podcasts, and watched all of Youtube videos out there? Of course, including The Secret.
Well at least that's how it feels, right?
Whatever this was from Bob Proctor, Esther Hicks, Jack Canfield, Tony Robbins, or any other personal growth and law of attraction gurus you follow out there, that write and talk about the law of attraction.
You feel you did everything that is necessary and required to leverage the LOA and finally manifest all that you want into your life?
And still, your life didn't change? At least not as much as you would like it to change?
You feel as if nothing would have the impact you desire so desperately? Are you asking yourself; is the law of attraction even working? And if yes, why doesn’t it work for me?
I may have the answers you are looking for so desperately, and I have packed them into this post because I feel you need to understand something. Something very important in the step to find out how the law of attraction finally works for you.
Not long ago I was at this point myself, stuck and I believed that this would never work for me. I thought that the law of attraction is some woo-woo stuff and I really like things to be hands-on. So I nearly gave up.
But as it turns out, it is not. In fact, the law of attraction is around for such a long time and in case you like to know more about the history of the law of attraction, check out this post I wrote for you.
WHY DOES THIS NOT WORK FOR YOU?
Let me tell you first of all, and listen carefully; The law of attraction does work. Every time, always and for every human being on this planet, we call home. Including you.
You are not an exception.
It is a universal law which affects everybody. Like the law of gravity, the law of attraction is just as reliable as all the other universal laws. If you drop something, it will land on the floor.
So does the law of attraction. It works.
It just may don't work the way you'd like it to work. How do I know this?
I know this because until not so long ago, I was just like you. I felt doing everything necessary, but nothing changed in my life.
When I’ve heard about the law of attraction for the very first time, I was blown away. I thought that this was the tool I’ve always been looking for. I loved the ideas of placing "orders at the universe," and I taught, yeah cool, now I can order my dream life just like I order my monthly supply of supplements at Amazon.
What a dream!
At that time, I just moved abroad, and I was building my second business and times were very tough. I was slowly running out of money, and I had no one supporting me.
Every time I opened my mailbox; there were more bills and final notices which I was just unable to pay.
I was in a desperate situation.
I experienced my whole life to fall apart right before my eyes, and I was not able to do anything to stop this. I felt helpless. Then "the Secret" came into my life.
It felt to me as if I’d found the solution to all of my problems. I knew straight away that the methods and ideas I’d heard about would change my life. I felt an instant relieve. It was as if a huge load was taken from my shoulders.
I started immediately to implement the methods and advice into my life. I went and bought a cute notebook. I even got myself a nice pen to write down my orders to the universe.
I wrote down how I imagined my life. With every detail, I could imagine, and I was very excited about the change which was about to happen.
I started to visualize my dreams. It felt so great to finally see myself as a wealthy, successful girl boss. To see my company flourish. I could see everything in front of me; it was so clear.
I really believed that this is going to happen. I expected the success to manifest soon and I was eager and excited, thinking about the good life which was about to manifest.
But nothing happened.
I was shocked and frustrated! How can this be?
I was doing everything which I was told in the movie. Why are there still bills in my mailbox instead of checks?
My first thought was that I must be doing something wrong. So I started to read more. Listened to more. Learned more about the universal laws, visualization techniques, positive thinking and everything that my favorite personal growth gurus had to say.
I applied all the techniques into my life. Well, at least I believed that I was doing this. I was trying to improve my life around these principles, and I was very confident, that my life was about to change now.
But it didn’t.
That was about the time; I started to hear that little, nasty voice in my head, asking me: “Do you think the law of attraction even exists?”
Maybe it just doesn’t work for me. Perhaps this whole thing is just to sell a few DVDs and books? To have these nagging doubts was horrible for me.
Mainly, because I have been told, that doubts or negative thoughts will disrupt the process of manifestation. Now I had the explanation, why the Law of Attraction didn’t work for me.
It was my brain, my subconscious mind, which was sabotaging myself. It was my own fault. And I tried to overcome these thoughts; I would force myself to be positive all the time.
Whatever it takes.
Can you relate to this? Are you feeling similar? No worries, I will tell you exactly how I turned things around, and I will tell you how you can do it too.
“THE SECRET” IS MISLEADING, SOMEHOW
In my opinion, "the Secret" is misleading. Sorry for being so blunt, but I do mean it as harsh as it sounds.
I believe that The Secret is focussing on the wrong part of the manifestation process.
Don’t get me wrong here. I completely agree with the overall message. And I honestly suggest you read the book and watch the movie, in case you don't haven't yet. It’s just great, and I watched the movie over and over again.
I know today, that I can achieve everything I can imagine and even way more. I'm totally convinced that everything is possible. I have done it, and I am doing it on a daily basis.
And so can you and everybody else. It works!
But I also believe that most people misunderstand the message behind the secret or most law of attraction content out there. I hear this so often; "Mia, what I'm doing wrong, the law of attraction is just not working for me" - and that's almost every time from people that watched the secret.
I do definitely agree with the idea behind the secret, that the three relevant components are the following:
If you follow this simple structure, everything you ever wanted, will come into your life.
What I do not agree on, is the relevance which it gives to the respective components. It is giving the highest importance to the element of expecting the things you have ordered.
Second important is the order itself and how the process of ordering should be executed and the manifestation is treated as a logical component. It is said, that all you have to do, is to believe in it and everything will come to you effortlessly.
BUT THAT NEVER WORKED (AT LEAST NOT FOR ME… HOW ABOUT YOU?)
Since I realized, that I need to rearrange the priorities, I am reaching goals, which I wouldn’t have dreamt of not so long ago.
For me, and for you (and anybody else), the relevance and importance you give to each of the three components are crucial. The most important component is by far, the manifestation itself.
This is the part, where you should invest all your energy and all your effort. Yes, you heard right. Effort.
It takes some effort to manifest your dream life.
Second most relevance has the component of placing your order. This is for sure a very important component too.
Identifying what you really want. Realizing, where you want to be in 5 weeks, months or years from now and then being fired up by these goals.
And then last, and in this case definitely least important, expecting your order to be delivered. This is where you get your motivation to do whatever it takes to fulfill your dreams.
And yes, you need to do stuff. (sorry for the bad news)
I know I probably shocked you with my statement, but the fact that you are still with me shows me, that it was the right thing to do.
Maybe this is the universe giving you an impulse in the right direction.
But let me explain step by step, what my findings were during my personal process of understanding the Law of Attraction.
First, we should dive deeper into the three components of attracting/manifesting your dreams.
1. PLACING YOUR ORDER
As I said, the process of placing an order is nothing else than setting your goals. You need to have big goals. Goals are the main driver. They are the starting point.
You don’t need to know how you can reach them yet. You just need to know where you want to get in life.
This is a living process, and you may not feel ready for setting huge goals, especially after that stuff didn't work for you before. Don't worry; you can take baby steps in this process.
The first one might be a little smaller. As soon as you achieve the first goal, you will have the confidence, those bigger goals are achievable. And you will set a bigger one. And a bigger one, and an even bigger one.
See where this is going? You will gain the confidence during the process. But setting goals remains a single task for each goal. A one time action.
Why it is important to set big goals, you can read about it here (a hint, it has to do with your motivation.)
2. EXPECTING YOUR ORDER TO BE DELIVERED
Or in other words, believing that you can achieve your goals.
If you start experiencing that you can reach your goals, you start believing in yourself. And this belief is giving you the motivation to take the necessary action.
To feel empowered to push through hard times. Or to do the inconvenient, unconventional but necessary things.
The expectation to reach every goal you have set for yourself is giving you the power and energy to do whatever it takes to achieve your goals.
What “The Secret” does, and it does it extraordinarily well, is delivering the right mindset. It helps you to be able to believe in yourself.
Without the right belief, why should you even get out of bed in the morning? Not to mention working hard on achieving your goals?
With the right goal and the expectation to reach it, you will do everything to get there.
3. WATCH THE MANIFESTATION TO HAPPEN
And finally, watch the manifestation happening. Manifestation is not a single event. You won’t wake up in your dream house one morning nor will your car keys change from a Mini Cooper to a Maserati overnight.
Let’s be honest here. Were you really believing this? I mean, really?
Your actions produce manifestation. It's no magic!
- You are committed to your goals.
- You are open for the right impulse
- You get active. (Taking action is key!)
- You work actively towards your goals.
So, after all, turns out the secret to the law of attraction is no esoteric new age BS. It is just a plain simple goal setting and goal achieving process.
And today, I am entirely convinced, that everybody can achieve everything.
BUT YOU HAVE TO WORK FOR IT!
Your subconscious mind will tell you what the right actions are to finally reach your goal and it will give you signals what to do and when to do it.
You will feel an inner urge to take a specific action. All you need to do is to follow that inner urge.
I wrote a post covering this topic in more detail. You find it here: Conscious vs Subconscious.
Maybe your unconscious mind will tell you to go and buy a lottery ticket. Get up and take action. Go and buy it! You will very quickly realize, that you see changes:
- Changes in your life.
- Changes in your behavior.
- Changes in your results.
These changes are the beginnings of the manifestation. The things you always wanted, are starting to materialize in your life.
YOU HAVE TO TAKE ACTION
There is nothing spiritual to it! You are not part of a universal plan. (Sorry if I destroy all your dreams with this, oh no wait, I actually just told you how you could reach your dreams!)
The great news is, you are in complete control over your life. You control every aspect of your life. Everything that happens to you is a reaction to your actions and the signals you send out to the universal force which is reacting to it.
One aspect which is pushing me forward, is the satisfaction, that I gain almost immediately if I take massive, controlled and focused action.
Every time you do something you actually don’t want to do, you will feel pure satisfaction. This is why I love being self-disciplined. Because it gives me instant gratification!
My work day often has 16 hours+, which I fully dedicate to my business, my readers, and my customers. But it never feels like really hard work, because I know that this is bringing me one step nearer to the goal I have. So this is my driver.
Is your goal big enough to do the same? If so, do it! If not, get yourself a real goal! A goal of which you believe you can achieve right now is maybe just not big enough!
THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS!
Thoughts become things. That's absolutely true.
Everything was a human thought first. That’s what’s meant by "thoughts become things."
All the big achievements of mankind were ideas first. Ideas of visionary minds, who were believing, that the impossible can become a reality.
- Neil Armstrong’s footprint on the surface of the moon. An idea.
- The Hoover Dam. An idea.
- The Pyramids in Cairo. An idea.
- The telephone, the car, the internet. All ideas!
Do you think, Alex Bell, Tutanchamun, or Henry Ford had these ideas and hoped that they became things overnight?
They took action.
(5% thinking, wishing, feeling) + (95% executing) = 100% achieving
HOW TO MAKE THE LAW OF ATTRACTION FINALLY WOR FOR YOU?
To apply the law of attraction to your life, follow these six easy to learn, understand and execute steps:
- Set big goals that set you on fire!
- Visualize them every day!
- Design a strategy to reach them!
- Develop an action plan!
- Execute against the plan whatever it takes!
- Give up whatever distracts you!
Actually, it comes all down to these three things:
Motivation, built and maintained by your goals.
Belief, established by regular visualization.
Take Action that will get you to your goal!
Applying the law of attraction into your life is not complicated at all. It is actually very simple. All you need to do is commit yourself to change your life for the better.
I know that change is frightening for most of us. But done correctly, it is an enjoyable experience.
It is your time, don't wait any longer, if you are serious with designing your dream life, with manifesting everything you ever wanted and with making the law of attraction finally work for you, you should take the most important step now: TAKE ACTION!
A great way to make the Law of Attraction work would be, to join my FREE Manifesting Challenge, you can join here.
About the Author:
Mia Fox is a trained NLP & Mindset Coach with nearly a decade of experience. After finally finding the secret behind "The Secret," she changed her money mindset and manifested her dream life. Since then, it is her big passion to help women around the world to do the same. She is the founder & author behind the Self Made Ladies Community & Blog and the "Become the CEO of Your Dream Life" advanced manifesting formula, where she teaches women a practical approach to the Law of Attraction and Manifesting.
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