JUST CREATE YOUR OWN HAPPINESS
By Mia Fox
Mindset & Manifestation Coach, Author and Founder of the SelfMadeLadies Community
When you feel low and unhappy, you create exactly that life, full of unhappy feelings. The good news is that this also works the other way around! Happy feelings will generate more happy feelings!
There is not much in life, we should put more effort in, than in creating happiness!
But now you may ask, how can I create my own happiness? Happiness is an inside job, and not a feeling you get from outside influences. You are the boss over your feelings and you can not only control how you feel but actually dictate your body how to feel and react. So creating your own happiness is pretty easy, once you understand this.
For most people, happiness is a feeling that evolves as a reaction to something positive happening in their life.
It’s a feeling we tend to get from the outside world. But those positive events seem to be so out of control, for most of us, right? They seem to happen incidentally. So it really feels like there is no way that we can control how we are feeling.
That’s how I felt for a very long time, and it’s probably the number one reason that I struggled for so long.
See, we all have times when something don’t quite work out. For example, we get some bad news and then more bad news, and even more bad news.
It’s like a downward spiral! Something negative happens in our life, we feel bad and then more negative things come into our life. And it just doesn’t stop.
But what when I tell you, you can change things very quickly with a very easy tactic that will help you to turn things around immediately?
Want to know how? Ok, read on and I’ll tell you.
HOW CAN YOU BE HAPPY WHEN YOU MAY FEEL BAD
First of all, it is essential to understand what these bad feelings do to us.
It’s not only that we lose precious time of our lives with being miserable, sad or depressed; it also makes things worse and harder to come out of this misery, and you also really hurt yourself when having negative thoughts and feelings. It hurts your body.
Did you know that actors, who play stressful roles hurt their body in the same way as people who really go through this kind of stress? When an actor plays a character that is totally stressed out, they actually seriously risk their health and could even get some serious health problems, such as heart attacks.
Makes you think, right?
So this means, even if the circumstances are maybe not as bad, they can still make a huge impact on your body.
And hey we all know, that we ladies tend to be a bit drama queens, I’m definitely guilty here! So think twice, next time you feel stressed out about any situation.
But the good news is, it also works the other way around.
For example, there has been more than one research on this topic in conjunction with sports and fitness. In a study published in the Journal of Neurophysiology, it was found that only imagining that you are doing exercise can tone muscles and make you stronger.
Well if that is not a #lifehack?
This means, only imagining or acting as if, is enough to create it in reality. It can be such a powerful tool if used the right way, don’t you think so?
That makes it clear, why I believe, that visualization is such a valuable tool.
NEGATIVE FEELINGS CREATE NEGATIVE CIRCUMSTANCE
But how can you not feel good when something negative happens to you?
Actually, you can learn to control this by starting with one simple exercise, and you will soon realize, it’s actually not that hard at all.
You just have to act as if!
So, how can you act happy when you are in fact, very sad, depressed, stressed out or it’s just not your day?
Well, think back to the last time you felt low. I mean really low. Everything seemed dark, and it felt the way, that the world would never be a happy place again.
We all have been there. Maybe just because of some silly things that happened in our life. Sometimes feelings like this are really not rational and come out of the blue.
Believe me, I know what I’m talking about, being a woman, suffering from hormonal imbalances (PCOS), all my life, I have been there more than I like to admit.
But maybe, the reason that made you feel so bad in the first place was more serious; maybe you just got some really bad news?
It doesn’t matter how bad the things are we experience in our life; it is as bad as we experience them, that exact moment. That’s what is important in the now, and that’s what creates our future.
But there is a simple exercise that you can implement in your life today!
Just fake it! Fake it until you make it, is my favorite saying. I used it in my past and still do it today in so many parts of my life.
And this has absolutely nothing to do with lying about things or fool everybody around you. It’s not fake; it’s only acting as things are already here. That’s the law of attraction in practice.
So start today!
Every time you are unhappy or any little negative thought comes up, just fake your happiness. Of course, this tactic works with other parts of your life too but just start with the happy feelings for now.
This is very powerful and so easy to implement.
WHEN YOU SMILE, YOUR EMOTIONS WILL FOLLOW
Try it out right now. Just smile.
This is like a muscle that you can train and put a smile on your face, in any situation, will become so much easier from time to time.
But that little smile on your face will change so much. Try it out. Smile for 5, 10 or maybe even 15 minutes.
Even if you are sad right now, or perhaps just not in the mood to do it, try it!
It doesn't matter if you are sitting in a coffee shop right now. People may think you are a bit awkward, but actually in a good way.
Do this exercise every day. Consistency is always important, especially here.
Maybe it helps to read something funny, or how about watching some silly cat videos?
-Whatever will help you to bring a smile on your face will do the trick.
But maybe you feel so low that even the cutest kitten out there can’t help you? Never mind, as I said you could fake it. Just make a smiley face.
Sure, this smile is just on the outside, it is fake, It will probably feel wrong. But still, your body will follow soon. And so will your mind.
When you smile, your body releases neurotransmitters such as endorphins, this is triggered by the movements of the muscles in your face.
Endorphins have a similar effect as a pain killer; they also bring you on a more relaxed state, and, you probably guessed it, make you happier.
Try it out; how are you feeling after 5 minutes of having a false smile on your face?
This “acted” happiness encourage the output of what we know best as the “happy hormones.” You will start to feel more comfortable after just a few minutes.
After a while, using this method, you will see your life turning around, to a happier you.
I understand, that for some people, this is a difficult exercise, even though it sounds so simple.
It’s like acting that you are rich when you only have ten bucks left in your bank account, just to attract money.
But it will form a habit over time. In the beginning, I would not try to use this method when you are feeling depressed right after some terrible news for example. Give yourself some time.
But to build the habit, there are two times in the day, where this method is very effective. Just before going to sleep and right after waking up. Try it as sort of meditation.
Think about it, you are in your bed, just before you fall asleep, the last thing you do is having a big smile on your face. Imagine the dreams you will have this night, imagine what the chemical reaction will be in your body, overnight.
The same for the next day, the first 10 or 15 minutes of your day you have a big smile on your face; how will you feel the rest of the day?
We all know the saying: “getting out of bed on the wrong side," but what if you could actually take control over this? Even if you only faked it and tricked yourself into this state?
And believe me, once you formed the habit of smiling every night and every morning it will become so much easier to do so regularly during the day.
And after a while, you will even be able to reverse the downhill spiral, after you are already in.
So don't forget; only you can create your own happiness!
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About the Author
Mia Fox is a trained NLP & Mindset Coach with nearly a decade of experience. After finally finding the secret behind "The Secret," she changed her money mindset and manifested her dream life. Since then, it is her big passion to help women around the world to do the same. She is the founder behind the Self Made Ladies Community & Blog and the author of "Become the CEO of Your Dream Life", teaching her advanced manifesting formula, where she gives women a practical no BS approach to the Law of Attraction and Manifestation.
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