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Affirmations are a very popular law of attraction tool and a technique most manifestation experts promote. It’s like telling your subconscious mind a positive statement about yourself; the more often you do it, the more your subconscious starts to believe.
So it’s definitely a great way to reprogram your subconscious mind and to attract more abundance.
But writing your own personalized affirmations is not the easiest thing to do, and even as a manifestation coach and author with so many years of experience, it took me a while to find out how affirmations really work. Or how I make them work for me…
That’s why I decided to create this guide on how to create powerful affirmations to manifest your dreams, or better said, writing affirmations that work for YOU.
To create affirmations that work, you need to follow a few simple steps:
State them in the present tense
formulate them in a positive way
use “I am” to make them more powerful
Also, to write powerful affirmations keep in mind that they need to trigger the right emotions. Telling yourself something that you can’t believe or an affirmation that just doesn’t trigger enough positive emotions will just not work. So read on to get a step-by-step guide on how to write your own affirmations daily.
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An affirmation is an affirmative statement, telling your subconscious mind HOW something should be, but because you are stating it in the present instead of the future tense, you are really telling it “how it is.”
It’s a powerful tool to reprogram your subconscious mind, also known as “act as if.”
The great thing is that your subconscious mind will not be able to tell the difference between real life and something you just made up.
And that’s what makes affirmations so powerful to use in the manifestation process.
Positive affirmations are an amazing way of reprogramming your subconscious mind and help you to change your beliefs on a subliminal level. The subconscious mind is overruling all consciously made decisions.
It is filtering out what part of the world you see. And whatnot. That is why two people at the same time at the same place can have entirely different experiences.
I get often asked to manifest money, love, health, etc., by simply using powerful affirmations.
For this, you must understand that the Law of Attraction is based on programming your subconscious to be vibrationally aligned with your desires.
And that is exactly what affirmations do.
Your whole life and every aspect of it is designed to fit the programming of your belief system. If your belief is that rich people are evil, then this is a fact for your subconscious mind, and it does everything it can to prove this point.
If you believe that all men are egoistic and there is no such thing as a happy relationship.
Your subconscious lets you experience all the possible evidence in your life to prove exactly this.
It’s not magically generating things and circumstances. It is just selectively deciding what information it’s filtering out and what things and circumstances it lets you experience.
And YOU do the programming of these filters.
How the subconscious mind works is a fascinating topic in itself. The good thing is that your subconscious mind believes everything that you will tell it. That means you can change its program and adapt it to your needs.
Because that’s exactly how you have built up any negative belief in the past.
Someone else (maybe your parents, teachers, or someone you have looked up to) has told you “his” reality of things, and you have seen it as “the truth” and stored it that way in your subconscious mind.
Or maybe something didn’t work the way it should, maybe 2-3 times in a row, and you stored it as a “given fact” in your subconscious.
Good news, you can change this back.
It’s hard to forget a negative belief just like that, but you can easily reformulate these negative beliefs into something positive and make them a new “truth” and believe it.
Affirmations are a great tool to do this. They are very powerful to guide your thinking and your life in the right direction, in the direction YOU choose.
Positive affirmations show you subconsciously what you want and where you want to go.
There are many other benefits of affirmations besides the strong effect on your subconscious mind. Here is a short overview of them.
Many people struggle with negative thoughts. This is natural, but there is also a very effective way to avoid them. Because positive thoughts can be trained very easily. And affirmations are the perfect tool for this.
Writing affirmations daily can help you keep your goals in front of you every day. And this is key to achieving them. Affirmations are ideal for this because you tell yourself every day how you have already reached your goal.
As an NLP coach, this is an important topic that I like to bring into my manifestation practice because the language we use (verbally and also mentally) is crucial.
The more positive you speak (to others or to yourself), the more positive things you attract.
They help you to practice gratitude more often
Gratitude is the strongest emotion we can use to manifest the life we desire, and affirmations help us to strengthen this emotion.
More positive emotions are definitely a good thing, and saying positive statements, as you do with powerful affirmations, is a great way to do so.
One of the best strategies to overcome limiting beliefs is to re-formulate your beliefs statements and then start to use them to give your subconscious a “new story” to believe in. So yes, that’s exactly what you do when you write powerful affirmations.
An affirmation is designed to express things you want to achieve in the present tense. Basically, an affirmation is a description of what we know as “acting as if.”
And acting as if is a manifesting technique you need to implement when you want to make the Law of Attraction work.
In my manifestation book, “Become the CEO of Your Dream Life,” I go even further and show you how to create your own inner manifestation coach.
It is then no longer just a matter of pretending, but rather living like the person who has already reached your goal.
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Typically, affirmations should follow these rules:
● Stated in the present tense
● Started with “I am”
● Stated in a positive way
And when you want to bring your affirmations to the next level, you should also include the following rules:
● Make them very specific, but try to keep them short
● Include an action word ending with -ing
● Include words that trigger positive emotions
It is important to understand that Affirmations need to trigger the right emotions. Telling yourself something that you can’t believe or words that don’t trigger a truly good feeling will just not work.
The universal laws (like the law of attraction) we leverage in the manifestation process are based on emotions and emotional vibrations. Like attracts like.
So only when your affirmation triggers the emotional state that is aligned with your desire will it truly work for you.
One of the main reasons you might struggle with getting your manifestations to work could be the point I just mentioned above. I would first have a look at what emotions your affirmations trigger in you.
One important point to keep in mind is that with affirmations, we state all the stuff we are not (yet) and we do not have (yet).
I guess it’s why we all use affirmations in the first place; we want something we don’t (yet) have.
And this can sometimes bring up a big abundance block.
At least, this happened to me and was the number one reason they just never worked.
It felt wrong to say out loud that “I am a millionaire, and money flows to me in abundance,” while my bank account was in the red.
And my results? Well, I definitely had not a million dollars falling from the sky! Sh**
But don’t worry, I will show you my secret, that one little tweak I made, to finally make affirmations work for me.
What to Change That Your Affirmation Will Work
My affirmations finally started to work when I began affirming things that I really could believe in. So I changed my approach.
From something which felt like I was lying to myself to finding balance in formulating my statements somewhere between “current reality” and my “perfectly fulfilled life.”
I still clearly focused on my desired endpoint. But I started from the situation I actually experienced at the moment.
The trick is that you are constantly increasing this level; the closer you come to your goal, the easier it gets.
What I did was change the wording of my affirmations, like in the following examples.
From a weak and hard-to-believe statement:
I have a sexy body
To a strong and easier to believe:
I am working on my dream body now. I’m so grateful for my body, and that I still have some potential to make it stronger, fitter, sexier… I have a plan of how to change things and improve, and I will do whatever it takes.
Or from:
I am rich
To a strong:
I am developing and changing my life right now! I am collecting the tools I need, the helpful people I need, and the motivation I need to be a Millionaire. It feels great to change, and to attract abundance.
From:
I have my dream partner
To a strong:
I am single now, and I am happy and grateful for the time I have for myself. I enjoy my single life because now that my dream partner shows up in my life, I can experience the wonderful feeling of falling in love.
This worked very well for me, so I started to teach this way of creating affirmations to the awesome people I worked with. With great success.
You can use affirmations in different stages of the manifesting process.
You can stick your affirmative statements on your vision board, you can write affirmation statements into your journal, you can record yourself and listen to your affirmations, or you can simply say them out loud.
Using affirmations in the manifesting process and to level up the law of attraction, is gaining more and more popularity. I’m not a big fan of it. If you want to know why > read here: The 55×5 Manifesting Formula May Be a Waste of Time (and What You Should Do Instead)
It is pretty easy. All you need is clear goals. You need to know where you want to be in life; this directs you where you have to go.
Proper goals are the fuel that triggers your motivation and makes you take action towards all your dreams.
Then you come up with positive, strong, and honest descriptions of your situation and create your affirmation statements from there.
Of course, you can tell yourself that you already “be there,” “have this,” “look like,” but you need to be able to believe this and trust in your own words.
Otherwise, they will be worth nothing and most likely filtered out by your subconscious mind before they will have any impact on your life.
To make this more powerful, it’s a great idea to read your affirmations out loud. Daily. And best even several times a day.
I suggest making yourself time every day for your manifestation routine. Stop just “hope that your life changes” – make it happen. You deserve this!
Use your affirmation as often as you can during your day. And then, you react to the signs your subconscious will give you by taking inspired actions.
What is the most powerful affirmation? Well, that’s easy to answer!
It is the affirmation that triggers the strongest positive emotion in you. An affirmation that will make you want to get up and take action.
So I can’t really tell you what are good daily affirmations for YOU because this really depends on your personality. The types of affirmations that trigger the right vibrational alignment with your desires are the type of affirmations you should look for.
That’s why my aim for this post was to help you write your own affirmations.
But in case you need some inspiration to get started, here is a list of affirmations for different areas of your life:
I am becoming the person I wish for my perfect partner to have.
Whenever I am feeling love, my body, mind, and spirit are completely at ease.
I enjoy cooking and eating the healthiest foods I can. It makes me feel fantastic when I feed myself well.
Every cell in my body is healthy and gives me energy.
There is an abundance of wealth available to me whenever I am ready to receive it.
Money offers me possibilities and new experiences, these experiences open my horizon.
My happiness is my choice and responsibility, and I am working towards being happier every day of my life.
Happiness is contagious. I spread happiness to others, and I catch the happy feelings from others.
Self-love is a choice, and I am grateful that I can make that choice every day.
I have every reason to love myself and express this love through the way I treat myself.
Want more? Get here 50 positive affirmations for self-love that help you manifest faster.
These are only a few examples; you can really create affirmations for every area of your life, here some more ideas:
And so on…
Do you want more affirmation examples? Then check out this post here: 101 Positive Affirmations for Every Area of Your Life.
In my manifestation community, I do regular Q&A sessions, and here I have picked for you the most frequently asked questions about affirmations.
It’s difficult to give you a clear answer on how long affirmations take to work. This really depends on many factors, such as:
How big is the goal you want to achieve?
How often do you practice your affirmations?
How deep-rooted are your limiting beliefs?
Do you have other abundance blocks that stand in your way?
To make affirmations work faster, you should practice your positive affirmation daily or even more than once a day. But you also need to understand that manifestation is a holistic process; positive affirmations are only a tool to support this process.
When you begin your affirmative statements with “I am”, you are putting yourself directly in the center of it. And not only that, you state your affirmation in the present tense, as if it would happen right now.
This can trigger a very positive emotional response. This kind of affirmation, where you use “I am” at the beginning, can be more personal and trigger your subconscious mind easier.
I know that many tell their coaching clients or readers to keep affirmations as short as possible. But I do not really agree with this. Here is why:
The best affirmations are the ones that trigger the right emotions in you because that’s what your subconscious will react to.
Short affirmations work well because they are easy to be repeated, and this is helpful when you want to write them down multiple times.
But if the words “I am a money magnet” don’t trigger you on an emotional level, this affirmative statement is useless.
You might be much better off using a longer affirmation like “I enjoy abundance in every area of my life. I’m free to do what I love because of the financial freedom I’m experiencing.” because it triggers the positive emotions that help you truly transform.
You can use affirmations for someone else, but only to change your feelings.
I am also often asked if you can manifest for someone else, and the answer is basically the same, you cannot manifest against the will of someone else.
That means if you use affirmations that affect someone else, it is purely to change your feeling towards that person or his/her situation. If this person does not agree with the affirmations, it will not change that other person.
Positive affirmations can certainly have a strong impact on what you feel and how you behave. And yes, this can be life-changing for many people.
But only YOU can change your life. And affirmations are just a tool that you can use to do so.
The affirmation itself certainly does not make you rich. So you can’t just say “I am rich” and wake up as a millionaire the next day. (That’s not how manifestation works)
That said… Affirmations can change your subconscious mind so that you become, for example, better at your job and earn more money. So yes, affirmations can help you become rich.
Money affirmations can also help you overcome money blocks and limiting beliefs around the topic.
Because I hear this question so often, I have decided to write an entire post about it. You can read it here: How Can Affirmations Make You Rich
If you try to use affirmations and do not believe in them, you will fail.
So the affirmation would only work on the conscious, but not on your subconscious level. You would hear the words, but you would not create any effect on your subconscious mind.
The key here is to trigger positive emotions, and that’s just not possible when something makes you feel unease (what you probably will when you tell yourself a lie over and over again).
So try to get closer to your current state when you feel that an affirmation is far over the top.
These are simply cards with positive affirmations statements on them that you can use to repeat your affirmations daily.
However, personal affirmations, tailored to your goals, have a stronger power. But affirmation cards are great for inspiration, and make a cute gift.
Yes, listening to your affirmations is a great way to use this tool for manifestation.
Affirmation work when you read them out loud, when you write them down, but also when you listen to them.
Recording your own voice and how you speak your affirmative statements is a great way to work with affirmations. Or you simply listen to prerecorded affirmations.
I’d say as many as you can handle. But it’s definitely better to just concentrate on ONE affirmation and make the process more powerful than trying to concentrate on too many.
Now that you have all your questions about affirmations answered and you know how to create affirmations that work, you should try them out for yourself.
They are a great law of attraction tool to have in your toolbox.
Remember, we are always manifesting without consciously realizing it. Taking control over the process is what makes the big difference between a successful and happy life and “just wishful thinking.”
ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Mia Fox is a bestselling author, founder & CEO of the SelfMadeLadies Community. After a decade as an NLP coach, helping women to overcome their abundance blocks and turning big dreams into reality, she started her manifestation blog in 2018. Since then, she has helped millions of readers with her practical manifesting tips, and wrote her bestselling manifestation book “Become the CEO of Your Dream Life,” which turned into an award-winning transformational program, teaching students in over 222 countries worldwide how they can transform their lives with self-coaching. Read more about Mia Fox here.
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