Positive Affirmation Guide - How to Create Affirmations That Work for You

By Mia Fox
By Mia Fox

NLP Coach & Bestselling Manifestation Book Author

Affirmation is a big word in the Law of Attraction community. Sure it is a powerful manifestation tool, but honestly, it took me a long time to actually find out how affirmations really work. That’s why I decided to write this affirmation guide.

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You know that positive affirmations can help you with your manifestations, but you are not sure how to create affirmations? Don’t worry, as a manifestation coach; I can help.

To create affirmations that work, you need to follow a few simple steps.  State them in the present tense, formulate them in a positive way, and use I am to make them more powerful. Also, affirmations need to trigger the right emotions.

Telling yourself something that you can’t believe or an affirmation that just doesn’t trigger a good feeling will just not work. So read on to get a step by step guide on creating positive affirmations that work.

What is a Positive Affirmation

An affirmation is an affirmative statement, telling your subconscious mind HOW something is. The great thing is that your subconscious mind will not be able to tell the difference between true reality and something you just made up. 

And that’s what makes affirmations so powerful to use in manifesting.

Positive affirmations are an amazing way of reprogramming your subconscious mind and help you to change your beliefs on a subliminal level. 

The subconscious mind is overruling all consciously made decisions. It is filtering out what part of the world you see. And whatnot. That is why two people at the same time at the same place can have entirely different experiences.

So it better be programmed the way that we see, attract, and get what we want in life. Don’t you agree? 


How Affirmations Work And How They Help Manifesting

I get often asked if affirmations work for the manifestation of goals and dreams and how to use affirmations for manifesting.

For this, you must understand that the Law of Attraction is based on programming your subconscious mind to be vibrationally aligned with your desires.

And that is exactly what affirmations do.

Your whole life and every aspect of it is designed to fit the programming of your belief system. If your belief is that rich people are evil, then this is a fact for your subconscious mind, and it does everything it can to prove this point.

If you believe that all men are egoistic and there is no such thing as a happy relationship, your subconscious mind lets you experience all the possible evidence in your life to prove exactly this.

It’s not magically generating things and circumstances. It is just selectively deciding what information it’s filtering out, and what things and circumstances it lets you experience.

How the subconscious mind works, is a fascinating topic in itself. The good thing is, your subconscious mind believes everything that you will tell it. That means you can change its program and adapt it to your needs.

Because that’s exactly how you might have built up a negative belief in the past.

Someone else (maybe your parents, teachers, or someone you have looked up to) has told you “his” reality of things, and you have seen it as “the truth” and stored it that way in your subconscious mind.

Or maybe you were guilty of yourself? Something didn’t work the way it should, maybe 2-3 times in a row, and you stored it as a “given fact” in your subconscious.

Good news, my friend! You can totally change the whole thing around. No, you’re not doomed!

It’s hard to forget a negative belief just like that, but you can easily reformulate these negative beliefs and make them a new “truth” and believe it.

Affirmations are a great tool to do this. They are very powerful to guide your thinking and your life in the right direction, in the direction YOU choose.

Positive affirmations show your subconscious mind what you want and where you want to go.

The Benefits of Affirmations

There are many other benefits of affirmations, besides the strong effect on your subconscious mind, here is a short overview of them.

They help you to break through your negative thought patterns. Many people struggle with negative thoughts. This is natural, but there is also a very effective way to avoid them. Because positive thoughts can be trained very easily. And affirmations are perfect for it.

They help you to concentrate on your goals. Keeping your goals in front of you every day is so important to achieve them. And affirmations are ideal for this because you tell yourself every day how you have already reached your goal.

They change your language. As an NLP coach, this is an important topic that I like to bring into my manifestation practice because the language we use (verbally and also mentally) is crucial.

The more positive you speak (also to yourself), the more positive things you attract.

They help you to practice gratitude more often. Gratitude is the strongest emotion we can use to manifest, and affirmations help us to strengthen this emotion. Every day.

They give you the clues to “act as if.” An affirmation is designed to express things you want to achieve in the present tense. Basically, an affirmation is a description of what we know as “acting as if”.

And acting as if, is a manifesting technique you need to implement when you want to make the Law of Attraction work.

In my manifesting book, I go even further and show you how to create your own inner manifestation coach.

It is then no longer just a matter of pretending, but rather living like the person who has already reached your goal.

How to Create Affirmations That Actually Work

Typically, affirmations should follow these rules:

● Stated in the present tense.
● Started with “I am.”
● Stated in a positive way.

And when you want to bring your affirmations to the next level, you should also include the following rules:

● Make them very specific, but try to keep them short.
● Include an action word ending with -ing.
● Include words that trigger some emotions.

Work With Emotional Triggers

It is important to understand that Affirmations need to trigger the right emotions. Telling yourself something that you can’t believe or words that don’t trigger a truly good feeling will just not work.

Manifesting with the power of the universal laws is based on emotions. Like attracts like.

So only when your affirmation triggers the emotional state that is aligned with your desire, it will truly work for you.


Why Affirmations Don’t Work For You

One of the main reasons you might struggle with getting your manifestations to work could be the point I just mentioned above. I would first have a look at what emotions your affirmations trigger in you.

The other thing with affirmations is that we state all the stuff we are not (yet), and we do not have (yet).

I guess it’s the nature of why we all use affirmations in the first place because we want something we don’t (yet) have.

And this can sometimes bring up a big manifesting block, so-called abundance blocks.

At least, this was the fact in my case. They just never worked.

It felt wrong to say out loud that “I am a millionaire and money flows to me in abundance” while struggling to get food on the table.

And my results? Well, I definitely had NO dollar bills falling from the sky! Sh**

But don’t worry, I will show you the one little tweak I made to finally make affirmations work for me.

What to Change That Your Affirmation Will Work

My affirmations finally started to work when I began affirming things that I really could believe in. So I changed my approach.

From something which felt like lying to myself, to articulating my true expectations I had on life. It was as if I had thrown a torch into a fireworks plant! My life exploded in the brightest colors.

Ok, that is perhaps a bit exaggerated; to manifest your dream life, you need a bit more.  But it was just crazy what huge impact that small change had.

I still clearly focused on my desired endpoint. But I started from the situation I actually experienced at the moment.

That was putting my whole affirmation on a solid, stable, healthy base. The old, standard way, my affirmations felt like a poorly anchored tent in a storm. Unstable and blown away from the first little wind.

Affirmations that I was actually able to believe in, suddenly felt like an old castle. Strong, indomitable, built to last a thousand years.

So I changed the wording of my affirmation, like in the following examples.

From a weak:

  • I have a sexy body

To a strong:

  • I am working on my dream body now. I’m so grateful for my body, and that I still have some potential to make it stronger, fitter, sexier… I have a plan of how to change things and improve, and I will do whatever it takes.

From a weak:

  • I am filthy rich

To a strong:

  • I might be in a different situation right now, but I am developing and changing my life right now! I am collecting the tools I need, the helpful people I need, and the motivation I need to become a Millionaire in no time. It feels great to change, and it will feel even better once achieved.

From a weak:

  • I have my dream partner

To a strong:

  • I am single now, and I am happy with it.  I enjoy my single life because very soon, my dream partner will come into my life, and we will have a great, loving relationship until the end of our days. I’m happy because I can experience the wonderful feeling of falling in love.

That worked for me very well. I can believe my affirmations when I articulate them like this. They are implemented in my subconsciousness much deeper than the classic ones.

And the other benefit is that I am repeating my goals every time I read them to myself, and my motivation stays super high constantly.

So I started to teach this to my coaching clients, and they started to get amazing results.

How to Use Affirmations in Your Daily Law of Attraction Routine

You can use affirmations in different stages of the manifesting process. For example, you can stick your affirmative statements on your vision board, you can record yourself and listen to your affirmations, or you can speak them out loud.

Using affirmations in the manifesting process and to level up the law of attraction, is gaining more and more popularity. And one method people love to talk right now is the 55×5 manifesting method.

In this post here, you can learn more about what the 55×5 manifesting method is. But it’s basically a mix of journaling and affirmations to manifest your wishes.

And even if other bloggers and law of attraction teachers are talking about the most powerful manifestation technique, or even call it an ancient manifesting ritual, let’s be honest; it’s just about writing down your affirmations 55 times, five days in a row.

I myself think this is a bit over the top and I think there’s a way you can make better use of your time, read here if you are interested:

» The 55×5 Manifesting Formula May Be a Waste of Time (and What You Should Do Instead)

But hey, if you really love affirmations, try the 55×5 manifesting formula. I love to hear your results!

How Can You Change Your Belief System With Affirmations

It is pretty easy. All you need is clear goalsYou need to know where you want to be in life; this directs you where you have to go. Proper goals are the fuel that makes your machine working.

Then you come up with positive, strong, and honest descriptions of your situation and create your affirmations from there.

Of course, you can tell yourself that you already “be there,” “have this,” “look like,” but you need to be able to believe this and trust in your own words.

Otherwise, they will be worth nothing and most likely filtered out before they can ever reach your subconscious mind.

To make this more powerful, you need to read your affirmations out loud. Several times a day.

I would not recommend doing this in public transport, btw. Funny story, I like to record my affirmation on my phone and listen to them several times a day.

One day I was sitting on a train and did listen to them, my eyes closed, fully in the vibration of the universe, when suddenly my headphones stopped working, and my phone switched to speakers.

I entertained the whole train with how damn sexy I am (not yet…)

Today I can laugh about it, but believe me, at that moment, I just wanted to sink into the earth out of shame.

So I suggest finding yourself a quiet place where you can’t be disturbed and use your affirmation as often as you can during your day.

And then, you react to the impulses; your subconscious mind will give you.

Affirmations Examples

What is the most powerful affirmation? Well, that’s easy to answer! It is the affirmation that triggers the strongest positive emotion in you.

An affirmation that will make you want to get up and take action.

So I can’t really tell you what are good daily affirmations, because this really depends on your personality. The types of affirmations that trigger the right vibrational alignment with your desires are the type of affirmation you should looking for.

The best is to test a few out and see what works best for you. Here a list of affirmations to inspire you: 


Affirmations to Attract Love

I am becoming the person I wish for my perfect partner to have.

Whenever I am feeling love, my body, mind, and spirit are completely at ease.

Affirmations for Health

I enjoy cooking and eating the healthiest foods I can. It makes me feel fantastic when I feed myself well.

Every cell in my body is healthy and gives me energy.

Affirmations to Attract Money

There is an abundance of wealth available to me whenever I am ready to receive it.

Money offers me possibilities and new experiences, these experiences open my horizon.

Affirmations for Joy & Happiness

My happiness is my choice and responsibility, and I am working towards being happier every day of my life.

Happiness is contagious. I spread happiness to others, and I catch the happy feelings from others.

Affirmation for Self-Love

Self-love is a choice, and I am grateful that I can make that choice every day.

I have every reason to love myself and express this love through the way I treat myself.

These are only a few examples; you can really create affirmations for every area of your life, here some more ideas:

  • Affirmations to lose weight.
  • Affirmations to start the day.
  • Affirmations to let go
  • Positive affirmations for success
  • Affirmations for work
  • Affirmation to win the lottery.
  • Affirmation for kids
  • Affirmation for anxiety

And so on…

Do you want more affirmation examples?
 Then check out this post here: 101 Positive Affirmations for Every Area of Your Life.

More Affirmations Tips & Questions about Positive Affirmation

In my manifestation community, I do regular Q&A sessions, and here I have picked for you the most frequently asked questions about affirmations.

How Long Does It Take for Affirmations to Work?

It’s difficult to give you a clear answer on how long doe affirmations take to work. This really depends on many factors, such as:

  • How big is the goal you want to achieve? 
  • How often do you practice your affirmations? 
  • How deep-rooted are your limiting beliefs? 
  • Do you have other manifesting blocks that stand in your way?

To make affirmations work faster, you should practice your positive affirmation daily, or even more than once a day.

But you also need to understand that manifestation is a holistic process; positive affirmations are only a tool to support this process.

Can I do Affirmations for Someone Else?

You can use affirmations for someone else, but only to change your feelings.

I am also often asked if you can manifest for someone else, and the answer is basically the same, you cannot manifest against the will of someone else.

That means if you use affirmations that affect someone else, it is purely to change your feeling towards that person or his/her situation.

If this person does not agree with the affirmations, it will not change that other person.

Can Affirmations Change Your Life?

Positive affirmations can certainly have a strong impact on what you feel and how you behave. And yes, this can be life-changing for many people.

But only YOU can change your life. And affirmations are just a tool that you can use to do so.

Can Affirmation Make You Rich?

The affirmation itself certainly does not make you rich. But affirmations can change your subconscious mind so that you become, for example, better at your job and earn more money.

I hear this question so often that I have decided to write an entire post about it. You can read it here: How Can Affirmations Make You Rich

Do affirmations work if you don’t believe them?

If you try to use affirmations and do not believe in them, you will fail.

So the affirmation would only work on the conscious, but not on your subconscious level. You would hear the words but you would not create any effect on your subconscious mind.

What Are Affirmation Cards?

These are simply cards with positive affirmations statements on them that you can use to repeat your affirmations daily.

However, personal affirmations, tailored to your goals, have a stronger power. But affirmation cards are great for inspiration.


Does listening to affirmations work?

Yes, affirmation work when you read them out loud, when you write them down, but also when you listen to them.

Recording your own voice, how you speak your affirmative statements, is a great way to work with affirmations.

How Many Affirmations Should I Focus On?

I’d say as many as you can handle. But it’s definitely better to just concentrate on ONE affirmation and make the process more powerful than trying to concentrate on too many.


How To Make Your Affirmations Come True

Now that you have all your questions about affirmations answered and you know how to create affirmations that work, you should try them out for yourself.

They are a great law of attraction tool to have in your toolbox.

Remember, we are always manifesting, without consciously realizing it. Taking control over the process is what makes the big difference between a successful and happy life, and “just wishful thinking.”

I’m Mia Fox, bestselling author, and the face behind this manifestation blog. After a decade as an NLP coach, helping women to overcome their abundance blocks, I decided to quit 1:1 coaching and founded the SelfMadeLadies online community. Here I help thousands of daily readers, wonderful women, just like YOU, to make the law of attraction work. And now it’s YOUR turn, are you ready?  Then get started and “Become the CEO of Your Dream Life” – grab your copy of my manifestation book here »

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